Monday, October 18, 2010

What should you prepare before you criticize someone


Do you prefer to criticize or  prefer to accept criticism?

If you like so much in criticizing people, do you did it in professional way?

I believe that all of us doesn't want to be criticized, or even some of them willing to accept it, I don't think they will be welcome it with fully open heart.

However, criticism also needed depending on what kind of situation, who give criticizes? is it the right time? the right place? Is that person so sensitive or not? How to say it in appropriate words?

If your relationship with that person become worse after you did that, trust me.. It is your fault because you actually can't handle something that you thought you can.


Before you go for criticizes, make sure you know that person very well unless that person ask you to judge them. You just can't go to them and say something like you know everything about them. Who knows, they maybe have their own reason to do something like that.

Try to become a gentleman, not anonymously criticizing people. You dare to judge people, you should dare to reveal your identity. If you want to give criticizes so that people can change to be better person, why have to throw your own balls away from them?

Use an appropriate words, polite and gentle so that they won't get hurt easily. Don't ever try to be sarcastic, or emotional like you the one who being criticized.

Try to give an advises or tell a story as a guide for that person so that they can imagine what will happen to them if they become like this or that, also try to work together to find solutions for their problem or support, well at least.

The last one is, make sure you correct yourself first before you go correct the others. It is doesn't mean you have to be perfect. Think about it.

14 comments:

Liquid said...

hee betul3. betulkan diri dulu sblm berani nak betulkan orang lain. nanti org kate mengaku dulang paku serpih, mengata orang dia yang lebey eheheheeh

zacky ~786~ said...

better cermin diri dulu ..
cari kesilapan diri dan cuba untuk perbetulkn yerr.. xguna kritik org klw diri sndri xbetoll.. betol x..?? hehee

zacky ~786~ said...

better cermin diri dulu ..
cari kesilapan diri dan cuba untuk perbetulkn yerr.. xguna kritik org klw diri sndri xbetoll.. betol x..?? hehee

AmirFX said...

Haha.. Kritikan yg membina lah yang paling bagus... Nang lumrah.. Mun manusia mok jadi yg terbaik sidaknya perlu sanggup untuk terima kritikan.. yerdehhh.. terer jak kmk tek.. Pas minum aek milo peng tek.. haha...

Faizal n Fashitah said...

Hehe..kamek jrg mok kritik2 urg. salu main simpan lam ati jak la..dengan harapan urang ya faham ehek..

AiDa AzRyN said...

Sokong sangat dgn kamoo! :)

relevan said...

Menerima Kritikan membina kira ok Ryan..tapi janganlah kitikan yang berbentuk mengutuk..itu tidak baik..

Ryan Valentine said...

Liquid: Tul tu, kite pun tak suke orang cam gitu..

Ryan Valentine said...

zacky ~786~ : yup, perbaiki kesilapan sendiri sebelum baiki kesilapan orang lain

Ryan Valentine said...

AmirFX: ooooooo.. minum aik milo sik ajak kamek la tek.. hehe

Ryan Valentine said...

Faizal N Fashitah: Mun nya sik da kena mengena ngan kita sik boh jak gago.. mun nya memudaratkan kita, elok2 la padah jak..

Ryan Valentine said...

AiDa: thanks ^^

Ryan Valentine said...

Relevan: yup, kitikan juga perlu dilakukan dengan betul dan ada peraturannya juga..

green said...

heh! apsal ko wangi sangat?







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